Terry spent a lot of her life wielding her sweet powers for good and many Port Washington people have moved forward on better paths because of her thoughtfulness and love. My daughter Cindy was aided by the Music Scholarship and is a professional musician now...I join the rest of Port Washington in giving thanks for her beneficent presence

Terry was so active and happy in everything she did - antiques, Bible class, music, reading scripture, etc. She will be grievously missed by all who knew her.

How I always loved seeing Terry's welcoming smile and kind words of encouragement! As you know, she had an art for turning attention away from herself and toward anyone in need. What a great lady! It was a privilege to know her.

Terry was such an extremely vital lady it seems most difficult to accept that she is gone. She touched our lives so often - at the Club, on the Shopes' 4th of July committee boat excursions, driving Ms Daisy a.k.a. Adele' Altar Guild and from time to time just good chats. What an adorable, lovely, gifted, caring lady we have all lost - I wished that I'd known her longer and better.

Other than her wonderful cooking, and her amazing ability to entertain I shall always remember her backing down the driveway at a fast pace. I used to say to myself, "I wonder if she will scrape the wall this time". I don't think that she ever did. I'm so glad that we were neighbors for such a long time.

Terry was a special person who had great courage and humor. It was a privilege to have cared for her.

It was such a noble fight and she was so courageous! What an inspiration! No one who knew her will ever forget the patience and fortitude!

She was a driving force in the Music Club and one of my most ardent supporters. She gave of herself completely with boundless enthusiasm. It did not take the Federation long to appreciate her talents. You must have been so proud when she became State Chairman. I will be forever grateful for the networking she did for me which made it possible for me to become a member of the prestigious Fortnightly Music Club of Cleveland.

Holly & I were thinking - all the people we knew and know you & Terry have always been the sweetest. I have never heard Terry say anything cruel, thoughtless or mean about anyone.

It was a privilege to know Terry and count her as our friend....I am including a personal note to Terry - this is what my heart dictates .....

Dear Terry, Your warmth, wit, energy, concern for others, devotion to music are your legacy - & now my inspiration. Shalom, my friend. We love you!

Someone once said, "To live on in the hearts of those who love you is to never die." I feel this way about Terry. She was a tremendous force of love in all our lives and that love will never die.

Terry will be always remembered by me for her enthusiasm, capability, ingenuity, generosity, vivaciousness and beauty of appearance and heart, plus more! In association with her in Music Study Club, she taught me much as she had great musical knowledge and depth. No matter what Terry took on, it was always a success. Bill, I know you have been her partner and enabler, and a devoted spouse; and Susan, you are an outstanding daughter. I know too she had great pride in you, bill, and of course David and Sarah brought tremendous joy. You are a terrific family, and now a legacy of her happiness.

Her bright presence cast a glow of energy and joy over whatever I was privileged to work at with her at St. Stephen's, and her voice, smile and laugh will always linger in the activities, places, things she was so deeply and caringly concerned with.

We remember with pleasure our stay at the Spencer in Chautauqua, when you both were there for the NFMC week. It was a pleasure to meet you both. We will miss you at future NFMC meetings and think of her with fondness.

My best memories of Sands Point Preserve are of my friends like Terry. She will always be remembered as kind and enthusiastic in my mind. She was truly a great friend to me and to so many others.

Terry was kind enough to invite a few of the volunteers to your house for dinner. My connections with her stem from those years. Her interest and knowledge of antiques furthered Eleanor's, and she directed us to resource persons who did appraisals - another kindness. Terry and I met again in "Follies" and chatted a bit at the Port Washington Choir's presentation at St. Stephen's. She cared about the way I was living my life. After she fell, I met her using a cane and angry at herself for falling. I tried to comfort her. Not too long afterwards (months) we waved at each other as she was gamely getting into her car. What a shock to hear that she had died of cancer just a few months later.

She was a great lady and a wonderful person to work with. I only wish we'd lived closer. I know we'd've been good friends. I thank NFMC for giving me the opportunity to have Terry in my Federation "family".

We will always remember Terry and her enthusiasm for life, infectious smile & laugh and caring for others... She was so encouraging to me in my piano playing.

If the measure of one's life is not (to paraphrase the Wizard of Oz) how much they love, but how much they are loved by others, then Terry's journey with the angels was blessed indeed. We will miss her smile, her laugh, her dedication - but most of all, her friendship.

I will remember the opera picnics we went on with Martha and Alec MacLeod, and how much we all enjoyed them.

I was such a huge fan of hers, from the time I was quite young.

Terry was such a great presence in your lives and that of the community's. She had a great zest for life and the energy that went with it. I will remember Terry with her radiant smile and always ready to help her neighbors when there was a need....Sal & I will always have a special place in our hearts for having neighbors such as you and Terry next door to us for thirty years. Thank you for making those years happy and joyous.

I'll always remember her as the most wonderfully cheerful of my mother's friends.

How blessed we Kirmsers are to have had you Stockers as our friends! A hundred years ago Bill and I sat in the audience attending the dedication of the then new post office. Our community-minded spouses sat on the dais. then there were the milestone celebrations...our 40th anniversary when Terry and Bill gave us a lovely creamer and sugar which we use only for company. Then we celebrated our individual 50th anniversaries, and before that there was a surprise birthday party for Terry. The huge dinner parties with the dining-room table extended to fill the room were delicious and joyful. The arrival of Sarah was our last happy celebration.

It's hard to believe the "human dynamo" had run out of gasoline- yet how wonderful it is to leave this world having done so much and remembered by so many - Terry was one of a kind.

She was, as you must know, to our family a very, very special person. At first a neighbor, then a friend and finally as close to us as if she were a member of our family. Her warmth, her generosity and mostly her love were unrivaled. How can I ever forget how she and Dede cared for each other, how Terry cared for Dede, how supportive she was during Dede's illness to the very end - and then to me when we lost her. All this will never be forgotten. She will be with us in our memory forever as well with Deborah, Jim & Julia. As the Proverbs say about a woman of valor - "Many women have excelled, but - Terry - outshone them all."....Terry will always remain close to all who had the privilege of knowing her and blessed with her friendship.

We will all miss her effervescence, enthusiasm and caring. Just wanted to let you know that the members of the Student Loan Fund Committee will be sending a donation to add to Terry's scholarship that the Port Singers are establishing. Terry was such an integral part of our group for so long. She certainly helped many with her advice when she interviewed our candidates. We were all proud to have known her and to have been part of her extended 'family'.

She was a strong force whenever she chose to give of her talents, and is an irreplaceable loss to all of us. It is inconceivable to me that our December Altar Guild team will not have her guiding touch....I am sure she was aware of the outpouring of love from all of her visitors, and the constant love and attention from her family....Her cheery greetings to one and all will be a remembrance for all of us. She set us such a good example of what a truly Christian woman does in her life. WWTD (what would Terry do) will be a strong influence for me these days....Our friendship went back to our class mother days at Flower Hill School, Sunday school, cub scouts and on and on. She set us all a great example of dedication and energy, to whatever project she chose to join. I will have great memories of her cheerful greeting, and will miss a good friend very much.

I have so many memories of Terry that they brim over....seeing her escorting Billy and Susan through the back gate to a birthday party for Chris or Lisa, nearly forty years ago...hearing her extraordinary voice floating across the yard from the kitchen window, as she sang over kitchen chores...seeing those bright eyes up on the stage at Schrieber, near Dede and Mrs. Doughty, of course, in a Port Singers' concert, or maybe in something like "The Music Man"....being instantly wrapped up in her love and generosity and concern during all of our crises, whether it was my sister's broken-leg sledding accident or my Dad's coronary in 1965 or his final illness or my mother's sundry adventures....hearing the phone ring in my mother's kitchen, and answering to a familiar voice who didn't even bother with preliminaries like, "Hello," or "This is...," but just announced cheerily, "I'M WAVING AT YOU!," and there we were, standing at our respective sinks (me just home for the weekend from Boston or NYC or Vermont), holding the phone and waving across lawns and bushes....feeling her intent and probing gaze as she methodically interrogated me, at whatever gathering was going on at our house, for detailed information about school, work, books, family, conveying above all that the curiosity was genuine and she cared to know the details. I think care is the operative word for Terry in our lives. It was more than neighborly care, or friendly care. For us it was more like family. Bill, you and Terry were more like an aunt and uncle than friends or neighbors, and Terry's presence across the fence did something for all of us. That bundle of energy and music and light did something to anchor and center our little community; not for nothing, in my mind's eye as I freeze time at say, 1965 or 1970, with the Bains, deWinters, and Parkers, and Stockers, is Terry at the center of it all, centering us all. I will miss her always, but I will carry her always in my heart. People leave us, but they don't go very far away, and I believe that they wait for us. Somewhere, everywhere, Terry is singing to us now, and it's a song of redemption and forbearance and strength....

Terry was gorgeous inside and out. In my mind's eye I can see her big blue sparkling eyes, her impeccably coifed hair, her beautiful figure, and her perfectly coordinated and beautiful clothes (such a sense of style!!). I can hear her lilting voice and rollicking laugh. Terry was extraordinarily beautiful on the inside. Never, ever did I hear her make any disparaging comment about another human being. She worked tirelessly, quietly, and effectively making the community in which she lived a better place by serving people lovingly, thoughtfully, and kindly. She truly lived her faith. She taught me how to live, treating her body as if she would live forever, treating her soul as if she would die the next day. (I wish I were as good a student as she was a teacher!) Having learned from the past, Terry lived very much in the present while looking forward with inspirational hope to the future. Terry's special radiance helped her to affirm others, to give them hope and to thus enhance countless lives. She was a wonderful minister. She will be sorely missed.

She was such a vibrant, cheerful person always there when she was needed with her warm, bubbly laugh. Although I knew her for just a few years we became friends and I shall miss her loving kind support.

I think often of our cutting hydrangeas, up on the ladder, and Terry "directing' us from the house.

She was always so alive, so vivacious, so thoughtful and loving to all her many friends. And everyone would agree that no one did more for St. Stephen's than Terry. This old world will not see anyone as thoughtful and kind and generous as your sweet Terry for a long while. She will be missed terribly by all who were lucky enough to have known her.

Our community has lost a major catalyst named Terry. It almost seems that words like energy, vivacity, can-do were invented to describe her. But that was just the tip. Below was a bedrock person - loving, generous, helpful - to her family, friends, even acquaintances.

(The Altar Guild) could always depend on her for the month of December and she was always ready to do 'battle' with Falconers, if they made a mistake on our flower bill! I worked with Terry on many Antique Shows, organizing the lunch for all 3 days. We were all exhausted when it was over, but came back to do it again the next year because she made it fun.

Though we've respectfully called her Mrs. Stocker she was always a friend, then a neighbor. We will especially miss her at our Christmas party where her grace & ascerbic wit combined to make a most unique and beautiful woman. Her charity & community involvement are legend & irreplaceable.